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  • fuzzy1973 posted I don’t think anybody made a real conscience decision to be an alcoholic. I won’t debate (or try to for either party) whether or not we were born this way. But, something happened along the way for sure. Somethings also have to happen along the way in our sobriety as well; new experiences, good things as well as not so good. We learned how using alcohol as a solution to our problems didn’t work. So, now we are somewhat like teenagers again; having to learn our way thru this big world all over again; but, on a more solid foundation! It takes time, effort and patience!
  • fuzzy1973 posted today i reached 5 years continues sobriety! it does work as long as you put the honest effort into a program and stick with it thru thick and thin!
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  • fuzzy1973 posted happiness is an inside job. there is no one who can create happiness for you other then yourself; my sponsor told me this and i hated him for it because he was right! there is no person, place, or thing that can create a lasting sense of happiness unless we learn to find it and build upon it within ourselves. we have to stop thinking that "i need a girlfriend/ boyfriend, some piece of materialistic status so i can move forward with my life/ recovery; it's something i really need". what we are really saying is "i need some one/ some thing to use as an excuse to be miserable and blame when things don't go my way and playing God fails".
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  • AndreaR posted When life throws you curveballs, don’t give up, just keep swinging for the fences.

    Life can be difficult, just remember that you have a team of people waiting to help you. Just don’t forget to reach out
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  • HeatherO posted "Recovery is not for people who need it, it’s for people who want it." - Anonymous
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  • fuzzy1973 posted you have to set boundaries. not only for other people but, for yourself. self will got us nowhere.
    • fuzzy1973 that can be tough. all you can do is let them know that it's your choice and not theirs that you don't drink and it's ok if they choose to drink. as long as you're comfortable with the situation there shouldn't be a problem.
    • SoberAna My issue is that I am fine around alcohol and going out for wings. However, it is my friends who feel uncomfortable for drinking by me. I know they are supportive, but how do I get them to stop acting odd?
    • fuzzy1973 well, if you have done a proper 4 and 5th step (or some kinda of moral inventory) that's a start for things to watch out for in others and more impotently- yourself. if you know a certain person, place, or situation is going to be trouble, chances are it is. there is no shame in choosing not to go into a bar 'just for a hamburger and fries with a friend" if you feel uncomfortable about being around alcohol; always better safe then sorry. if some one doesn't show respect for your choice in sobriety, they are probably not going to be a good influence on you. but most importantly; you have to learn how to put your sobriety first for yourself, not anyone else.
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  • AndreaR posted I’ll just leave this here for those who need it.

    Perfection is something we strive for, but we’re never going to achieve. The reason is because no matter how hard we try, we’re never going to be perfect.

    If you try your best, that’s all you can really do.

    If you really want to be seen as perfect, well all you’re really doing is causing yourself unnecessary grief and anxiety, because no matter how hard any of us try, we’re still not going to be perfect.

    We are all works in progress. Just try and be the best person you can be, and try and be better than you were yesterday. That is all that matters.

    What other people think of you is something you can’t control. Just worry about what you can control.

    Remember... the only thing that really matters is what you think!
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