I don’t think anybody made a real conscience decision to be an alcoholic. I won’t debate (or try to for either party) whether or not we were born this way. But, something happened along the way for sure. Somethings also have to happen along the way in our sobriety as well; new experiences, good things as well as not so good. We learned how using alcohol as a solution to our problems didn’t work. So, now we are somewhat like teenagers again; having to learn our way thru this big world all over again; but, on a more solid foundation! It takes time, effort and patience!