happiness is an inside job. there is no one who can create happiness for you other then yourself; my sponsor told me this and i hated him for it because he was right! there is no person, place, or thing that can create a lasting sense of happiness unless we learn to find it and build upon it within ourselves. we have to stop thinking that "i need a girlfriend/ boyfriend, some piece of materialistic status so i can move forward with my life/ recovery; it's something i really need". what we are really saying is "i need some one/ some thing to use as an excuse to be miserable and blame when things don't go my way and playing God fails".